A cynical touchstone: Shun Or Save?

A few days ago,  I caught myself doing an unplanned act of charity. It was an act of kindness directed at a kid begging at the traffic signal. A member of the same lot that normally get a lot of sneers from me. But, what got me thinking was the reason behind my act of kindness that particular day. I realized that I was sparing some "kindness" in order to feel a little less guilty for my own actions. 

My favourite restaurant makes money off me because I love gorging on their food. The shoemakers I worship, certainly do not sell me shoes because of what a pair of Manolo Blahnik would mean in my life, but because they would add a little more fortune to their rising multi-million dollar business. Well if ROI had such a vital role to play in decision-making, then why is a cynic shunned?

Every cycle of communication has a inbuilt cycle of feedback, without which it isn't complete. The cynical touchstones in our lives are giving us something that  Master Card certainly cannot buy, honest feedback. 

" Did you spend that much on  shoe? A poor family in Korea can live for two months with that money"-Honest Feedback. " You sound more like a Stepmother "-Honest Feedback. "You should lose a few kilos or some french fries"-honest feedback. "When you have a fabulous job which pays you well, then why do you need a man to buy you things"-honest feedback. 

If relationships are to based on values like honesty, trust and respect; why would you want that cynic out of your life, just because he/ she is being honest?  Where is the sense of your ROI, now? Why would you want a pile of lies, when you can have a person giving you honest feedback? Is it because you are proud of your flaws or is it because truth is too ugly, when it is said out loud? 

Let's face it (Just like a cynic would). Whatever maybe your reason, without the Cynical Touchstones pointing out loopholes, every one of us would just be stepping into rat traps, unprepared.

Its easier not say , "Ah. My boyfriend dumped me because I am fat" or " I maxed out all my credit card" or

 " I am broke again, and I realized I cant eat shoes and live". The world would be a better place to live-in without these forgettable happenings in every one of our lives.

Why wake up and smell the coffee when it is too late? Wake up and listen to your cynical friend or cousin or work-mate look you in the eye and give you some honest and much needed-feedback. Our world needs people who do not let their logic get affected because of the emotions they undergo or the emotions they might impose. You see, our world today, needs cynical touchstones, so that it doesn't fall apart later.